Comments on: Reflections on parenthood, 16 days postpartum.

By: witchypoo

witchypoo — Sat, 11 Jul 2009 03:24:32 +0000

I saw a woman on Oprah who had discovered the secret language of babies. There are five pre-cry sounds they make, and I'm pretty sure you can google them. .-= witchypoo´s last blog ..Does My Cat Love Me? =-.

By: Donna B.

Donna B. — Sat, 11 Jul 2009 01:57:22 +0000

You are NOT the worst mother ever nor are you a big idiot.
You have been “blessed” with a fussy baby. If she is gaining weight, she is doing fine.

I’d love to be able to tell you that there’s a way around the fussy, gassy, cholicky baby (or whatever name someone chooses to put on the condition) but there really is not.

Rock and hold and do the best you can. The only really helpful advice I got was a heating pad (very mild heat) for the baby’s tummy.

Honestly, I don’t know if that really helped or if it made me feel better because I was “doing something” that might help.

The photos you are posting are of a healthy baby… don’t be beating yourself up because she cries.

Take care of yourself and N because you two are the most important people in the whole wide world to Everly.
.-= Donna B.´s last blog ..I’m Back =-.

By: Talina

Talina — Fri, 10 Jul 2009 23:32:27 +0000

I’ve contacted the local LLL contacts and am waiting for a response…

I guess the real issue here is how unprepared I feel and how I don’t have all the answers. Add that to her fussy, crying and I just automatically feel like the worst mother and biggest idiot ever.

Oh and I’ve never cried so much in my life! The hormone changes are just making me a weeping mess.

By: Hyphen Mama

Hyphen Mama — Fri, 10 Jul 2009 20:59:54 +0000

lceel’s last sentence is how I’ve survived the last 5 1/2 years: we’ll learn this together kid, hold on for the ride!

Isn’t it funny that “the people” want you to have prenatal care and “watch closely” the development of this little being inside you, as if they can actually do much–then just send you on your way with a human life in your hands and NO HELP!

Life is funny.
.-= Hyphen Mama´s last blog ..Good grief where do the days go? =-.

By: Mitzi

Mitzi — Fri, 10 Jul 2009 20:42:16 +0000

she's so beautiful, talina. just gorgeous. i hope things get better. .-= Mitzi´s last blog ..Land of the Free =-.

By: lceel

lceel — Fri, 10 Jul 2009 14:18:51 +0000

It IS funny, isn’t it? Nothing – and I mean NOT A THING – you do in life truly prepares you for having a child of your own. One thing is sure and true – your life is changed forever – and never again will it change as much as it does when you have your first child. Books? Pah! Advice? Pfft! There is only one way to learn – go through it.

All that said – just take it as it comes – one minute, one hour, one day at a time. You and your baby will learn how to do this mother and child thing – together.
.-= lceel´s last blog ..Friday Haiku – almost =-.

By: Becky

Becky — Fri, 10 Jul 2009 01:49:51 +0000

Have you looked up the LeLeche League (or group). I would think they would have a website with a “contact us” page to ask questions and get advice.

When I left the hospital with Taylor I was floored. I had no idea what to do with her. I felt the same way when I brought Seth home. It does get easier and better. Just keep doing what you’re doing…its what’s best for your family.
.-= Becky´s last blog ..Random Rambles =-.