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Garden Fun, Homestead Lessons & Baked Kale Chips

Now that spring is here we all get to start and end our days out in the fresh air again. We couldn’t be happier! This morning during our garden tour we checked all the plant progress.

The grapes are setting little grape clusters that need pinching off, the strawberry plants are flowering and seedlings are coming up everywhere.

We even got some “circle of life” learning under the belt today when Everly discovered a quickly drying out worm in the dirt.

She informed me the worm was “all dried up” and continued to watch it and poke it. “Mama it is moving! Let’s fix it” she said.

I told her to get a small amount of water from our rain barrel so we could make some mud to cover it with. Then we talked about how worms need mud and to be burred in the dirt.

Next I was unpleasantly surprised by a dead field mouse the cat left for us on top of the chicken hutch. While I scraped it up and tossed it in the trash we talked about how the cat likely played it to death. Everly wanted to take it to a doctor but I explained that it had been dead too long and that it couldn’t be saved. “Oh, okay mama. Poor guy” was her response as we tossed the poor thing in the trash.

Then we planted some annual flower seeds in places around the yard and she picked some pretty weeds that she wanted to keep on the table in a vase.

Next, we planted Everly the highly anticipated Sunflower/ Bean Tepee that we had thought up after seeing a similar Bean Tepee on Pintrest.The goal is to grow beans up the sunflower stalks for added functionality and fun. Here is how you can do it too:

Planting a Sunflower/ Bean Tepee-

Just take about 19 sunflower seeds and plant them in a semi-circle/ rounded horse shoe shape that is big enough for your kiddo to go in. Once the seeds sprout, plant about 10 or 15 bean seeds along the outside of the semi-circle.

Train the bean stalks to grow around the sunflower stalks. When sunflowers grow to about 2-3ft tall you can braid and twist their tops together to make a Tepee like roof. They will continue to grow upward and then bloom while their stalks make an exciting little hiding area for curious kiddos and a sturdy support for the beans.

Sunflower stalks are strong and roots go deep so chances are your teepee frame will remain after the end of the growing season and can be used to grow beans the following season. Just be sure to clip off your dried sunflower heads and put the seeds in a bird feeder after the season or the entire area surrounding your teepee will become a sunflower forest the following season as the seeds fall from the bloom heads and germinate.

Everly and I also clipped some kale to cook up today which was another nice adventure for her. She loves to do big person stuff like harvesting foods from the garden. Last year she loved to be in charge of carrying the “picking bucket” when we harvested things, this year she’s full on harvesting stuff herself which is great for her.

We also explored the mint plants, complete with taste testing their leaves and she found a wild onion bulb while helping me plant seeds that she washed and added to the harvest pile all on her own.

Now we are off to bake some yummy kale chips with the large kale plants that overwintered in our garden and are about to go to seed. Here is a recipe you can try:

Baked Kale Chips

  • 1 bunch (about 6 ounces) kale
  • 1 tablespoon olive oil grapeseed oil (or other heat stable non GMO oil. Note: olive oil isn’t heat stable and isn’t good for cooking.)
  • Sea salt to taste. (I used raw Hemalayan Pink Salt for added nutritional value.)

Preheat oven to 300°F. Rinse and dry the kale, then remove the stems and tough center ribs. Cut into large pieces, toss with oil in a bowl then sprinkle with salt. Arrange leaves in a single layer on a large baking sheet. Bake for 20 minutes, or until crisp. Place baking sheet on a rack to cool.

Do you grow a garden that your kids help with? If not I’d highly recommend you start a kitchen garden, even if it is just a few plants that you’ll know you can use for eating.

Getting the kids out and letting them get dirty is wonderful for them! Not only is it an activity you do together but it teaches them about responsibility, food, nutrition, cooking, resourcefulness and even life lessons if you are mindful of the fleeting opportunities.

If you haven’t already, unplug from technology for a bit and go get those hands dirty with your kids.

It is like I am an addict: Thoughts on body detox with diet changes.

Whether you consider it mommy mania, anxiety, depression, detox or simply hormones, it has been a hard few days weeks round these parts. Of course our close calls with tornadoes at the beginning of the month had something to do with the stress and drama levels around here. Weather aside, mommyhood stuff has sure been trying for me.

Adalyn is still miss fussy-pants with the pooping issues. She’s also still working on her first teeth. Everly is pushing boundaries and being a pistol too, add those with an exhausted (and now detoxing) mama and you’ve got a barrel full of “omg-how-will-I-get-through-this-day” monkeys. The detoxing is the result of my swift diet changes that I shared in my previous post about leaky gut.

Taking over-processed carbs and sugars out of my diet as well as limiting gluten intake has basically owned me. My patience is short, emotions are high and low (all at once) and man am I grouchy!

I know the diet changes are not only necessary for me but they are also priority if they are impacting Adalyn… but man it is hard! The kicker is that removing gluten, if I do manage to avoid ALL the foods it is hidden in, will take months to leave our bodies before we’ll see results (maybe as many as 4-6 months). So Adalyn will likely be weaned and eating mostly solids at the point when potential positive results are seen, if ever…

It is a tall mountain to climb and looking ahead makes me tired and hopeless right now. I’d love to talk myself out of having to remove gluten from my diet or to turn to easier solutions such as supplementing formula or weaning Adalyn but the truth is those are only temporary fixes.

The underlying issues will likely return and rear their ugly heads in other forms if we continue to deny and avoid what needs to be done. That said, I am also continuing to explore other potential fixes for Adalyn. Her breastfeeding is still not where it needs to be so an official tongue tie evaluation is scheduled. We had on-going chiropractic neck adjustments for  her birth trauma that are no longer necessary but she’s still having issues.

I am working to make the house more and more gluten free as I go. First breads have been replaced, next are baking mixes and pastas. I am also looking for more gluten and processed food replacement items to fuel me and the family.

If you’ve never tried limiting your gluten intake than you seriously have no idea how rampant it is in our diets and how tremendously addictive it is. Honestly, cutting gluten has been worse than removing sugar or caffeine, for me. It is BAD!

So if you see this mama on the street and I’ve got a sour look on my face (or if I bite your head off), know it is just my food addictions and detox speaking, not my heart. This process has been (and still is) a doozie.

Digestion issues in baby could be leaky gut in the breastfeeding mother.

Back when Addie was about a month, at my own chiropractic visit I was describing her digestive issues to my chiropractor Dr. Lamb and he mentioned in passing that it might be the results of a little bit of leaky gut action in me. For whatever reason, likely because I didn’t fully understand what leaky gut meant to a nursing relationship, I never thought much about it again.

Now, Adalyn is 6 months old and I’m really doing my research (on leaky gut in a breast-feeding mother), I can’t believe that it’s taken me this long to fully learn about how healing a leaky gut could possibly make our lives a whole lot easier.

Leaky gut in a breast-feeding mom means that your food isn’t properly being digested and furthermore that the blood barrier in the colon is compromised. This is significant because anything that enters your blood also ends up in your milk, so if you’re not properly digesting foods then you aren’t filtering toxins in your digestive tract either.

The toxins and undigested stuff can end up in your blood supply and thus in your breast milk (when it normally wouldn’t) which can appear similar to food sensitivities and other ailments in you and baby.

This makes perfect sense to what’s going on with myself and Adalyn and that would mean our issues weren’t necessarily related to food sensitivities, but rather she’s just being exposed to things through my breast milk that her body either isn’t ready to handle or shouldn’t have to handle yet.

This is particularly alarming because a child’s toxin barriers aren’t fully formed yet, so toxins that enter the body can harm the brain and body. Plus, if mom has a leaky gut then her digestive bacterias (that are the root of the leaky gut problem in the first place) have already been passed to baby, so baby needs leaky gut healing too.

Many moms automatically assume when their baby has gas or acid reflex or colic symptoms that it’s because of baby’s food allergy and that it’s something the mothers eating. It’s partially true in the case of leaky gut syndrome the difference is that the leaky gut can be healed and prevented.

There are various options when it comes to healing a leaky gut, they’re all very similar to an elimination diet however the end result is not to simply do away with certain foods from the diet altogether rather the goal is to remove them temporarily so they got has time to heal and later function more properly.

I’m thinking once get digestion on track again a lot of these no-no foods for leaky gut healing could be added back in. I was warned that we that healing the leaky gut is long and tedious process and I’m not particularly excited about having to undertake it but I’ll do anything to make Addie feel better.

So, I started my healing process with removing sugars from the diet. I just took an online course that said whatever foods you perceive that you cannot live without or that you crave intensely are likely the foods that cause you the most problems with regards to digestion and the leaky gut. Sugar is number one on my list of cravings so that’s the 1st thing I’ve taken out.

After sugar the other major food to eliminate (for me) would have to be processed foods I guess you’d say. Mainly snack foods that are high in carbs. I tend to go back and forth between sugars and carbs not only for quick energy during the busy day but also to fill me up.

Without the sugars and carbs I tend to always feel hungry and hunger immediately sends me reaching for something sweet or something processed and filling.

So that’s where we have been for the last three weeks. I’m working to improve my diet and to heal my gut/digestive tract so that my breastfeeding child is healed and is not suffering. We are also, finally, getting an evaluation for tongue tie.

If you’d like more resources on leaky gut and nursing you can also check these articles out:

Mommy is a person too!

Since Adalyn has arrived I’ve been struggling with balancing the needs of both my kiddos while also taking care of myself. Actually, if we are going to be honest, I was beginning to struggle with it while pregnant.

Somewhere along the way I got the wrong idea about motherhood and it has left me exhausted, resentful, resented and sometimes just plain miserable. Mothers can’t always do all, all the time… Yet we surely try don’t we?

I am majorly guilty of this. For the past year and a half I’ve been available to my child’s every whim, day and night, with love & despite it all. Now that I’ve got two kids the with love part has been replaced by frantic, sleep deprived, sometimes grouchy & hormonal me while I try to mother my nest of two the way I did my nest of one. I’ve realized I cannot possibly stretch myself and my time any thinner and I’ve been feeling like a failure because of this.

Recently, Everly is seemingly resentful of me for it. She is withholding hugs and kisses, clearly preferring her daddy and even vocalizing it. It is a whole new ballgame now, my baby is grown and I feel guilty for whatever feelings I am causing in her with my own needs and limits. Then I read “My children are people” and my self hatred slowly started to clear.

Maybe it is not totally awful to have healthy limits for mom and children. Maybe declining is okay when asked “mom, you want to play animals?” for the 100th time that day, even after you just finished playing. Or when you’d like to rest for a few minutes while there is a quiet moment, after you’ve held a fussing baby and bounced for a few hours and you tell your toddler to play on her own for a few minutes.

It isn’t because you don’t love her and she doesn’t love you, the resentment and guilt is probably because the relationship is changing. She is growing as a person and you are experiencing, for the first time, the inability to juggle everyone else’s needs and still take care of yourself… and that is okay.

Mom is a person too, with needs. Lovingly exposing this truth to your children will result in more understanding, self aware kids and maybe even a healthier, more happy mama right?

So lets give ourselves a tiny break, take a deep breath and instead of feeling defeated and sad lets marvel at the way our relationships are changing with our kids and be proud of the amazing people our children are becoming.

Ah, I feel better already.

Monday Phone Dump #7 (because I missed Friday)

Some exciting stuff is happening here on the half-acre homestead these days that I wanted to share. It seems like it has been a very long time since I’ve blogged about life around here.

My excuse: life with two little girls is busy! Also, my working from home is keeping me busy too.

The updates to report are:

Someone rolled over on her own and is getting so big so fast!! She is also six months old already and scarfing solids whenever given the chance.

Her digestive issues are still something I am trying to relieve and we just recently had her “birth trauma” confirmed in the form of a chiropractic evaluation and needed adjustment.

Remember, she was born with a nuchal arm (aka. her arm came out with her head). It seems we are on the right track with chiropractic adjustments and diet changes. I’ll blog more about the details in another post.

Oh and Adalyn’s hair is about 3 1/2- 4 inches long now. So crazy! She is making it seem like Everly was bald in comparison.

Also, spring has sprung in our garden and we are beginning preparations for another growing season complete with removing our cold frame window boxes.

We let the chickens forage in the empty beds for a few weeks to clean up the weeds, any dormant pests and also to spread some of their nitrogen rich poop around in the soil. LOL.

We said goodbye to a trusty friend (my infamous Isuzu, Amigo) and hello to a new ride that gets amazing gas mileage (a hybrid Prius).

We went from dropping $65 every four days to just under $35 every seven days for gasoline.

Are you jealous of our huge reduction in gasoline use with out new car? We now have a smaller tank and use way less fuel with the hybrid engine. Stoked!

The Amigo stopped running last summer and since then we’ve been down to one car here and we don’t totally NEED a 2nd car but it sure is nice to be able to get out and about again.

 

Nathan’s goodbye to the Amigo: “Rest in peace dear pink Amigo. Your 21 years of ridiculous service have been real. The cities of Flagstaff and Evansville will probably never see the likes of you again nor will they ever be the same. Adios Amigo… Adios.

 

This means us girls are no longer stuck at the house every day of the week. Everly is stoked her playdate/ social schedule can resume, mommy is glad to remedy the boredom.

Although, with the garden back in the swing of things we are curing boredom with outdoor chores again.

Also, I just got contact lenses and am no longer tied down by glasses. This makes me very happy. Yep, I’ve been in glasses for about 2 years now.

Wasn’t really wearing them as often as I should have and now with a grabby baby girl it is even harder. Plus, I hate not being able to use my peripheral vision in them so I made the switch and am pleased.

Oh and in less than 30 days I turn 30!! OMG. Times flies.

 

Foggity, fog, fog… of parenting.

I’d be curious to learn how long sleep deprivation takes to kill.

I’m sure doesn’t kill you directly, rather it just causes you to be dumb enough to do things that eventually kill you. Like fall asleep at the wheel or forget to turn your stove burner off.

We are absolutely exhausted beyond belief these days. Adalyn is teething and she is still having digestion issues. This means on a good night I’ve been getting 1 to 2 hours of sleep in a stretch. Of course a few hours is better then totally sleepless nights but still. I am wrecked. So is Nathan.

I am still on a quest tor digestion relief for Adalyn but it seems even after seeing a pediatric chiropractor, we still have no improvement.

So far the only somewhat helpful solutions have been my drinking kombucha and her starting solids. Yep, my 5 1/2 mo old stole food from me and is on her way to eating more and more solid foods. This led me to think of another potential solution for her digestion issues, leaky gut in me. I’ll post more on that later.

Also, I cannot freaking wait for spring so we can all get outdoors for gardening and to break free from this cabin fever. My mood is foul, we are all bored and constantly irritated and boredom breeds mischief for Everly.

The one positive is that my food journaling in an effort to narrow down possible food triggers for Addie has resulted in improvement on the sugar and carbs front for me. It is even helping me keep an eye on my vitamin and nutriment intake.

Now if we could just have a developmental milestone for Addie already… I am betting once she does the sleep will greatly improve again. Can’t wait!

Too much of a good thing: Oversupply & Breastfeeding

Adalyn spitting up often right after feedings, choking on milk when we’d first start nursing, gulping and losing suction during nursing and also drooling out milk while nursing. I’d have painful letdown when she was or wasn’t nursing, major engorgement and some serious leaking issues at all hours of the day.

When a mom has too much milk it is called oversupply. The kicker is that oversupply is often accompanied by a “milk imbalance”, which baby can have serious issues with.

If you have too much milk you typically aren’t fully draining the breast on a feed. It is essential to fully drain the breast since there are two consistencies of milk delivered by a breast in a feeding. The first portion of a feeding your baby gets what is called foremilk, typically a less fatty and thinner. Hindmilk is more fatty and thicker, it comes at the end of feeding before the breast is totally drained.

I knew about hindmilk/ foremilk but on lack of sleep and while trying to learn how to be a family of four I had a few weeks of idiocy. Adalyn has always been a nursing machine, since her first suckle minutes after birth. While she was adjusting to life outside the uterus in the first two weeks of her life she fussed and nursed for comfort. I was the idiot that kept switching back and fourth between breasts without thoughts of how long she was nursing and how often we were switching sides.

Once my supply increased and her fussing got worse it all just snowballed. She’d fuss more and we would nurse more without thought. I am talking like 5min per side with maybe 10-30 min between feeds if we were lucky and mu supply just kept increasing as did her fussing… and what do you know, her poop became more and more nonexistent.

What Adalyn and I we are going through is called oversupply and my hindmilk/ foremilk is not balanced. We were basically experiencing exactly what this author wrote about (if you are looking for more info on hindmilk/ foremilk & oversupply).

I am happy to say that after just a week of block feeding Adalyn’s poops are coming more often again and her fussiness is decreasing! Right now we are going 3-4 hours on a breast before switching sides, that triples-quadruples the amount of time Addie spends on a breast. The idea is that she gets more of the fatty hindmilk the longer we are on the same breast.

This week we have gone from a poop every 5-7 days to THREE poops in a week! I am elated.

I’ve seriously always hated the general blanket ailments like colic or food sensitivities being thrown around and I can’t tell you how many times I was told Addie would just need to outgrow this or that she’d adjust later. If you are a parent experiencing similar symptoms with your baby keep seeking answers and keep doing your research. Here are some articles to help those going through similar symptoms.

Sources & Other Reading:

  • On newborn stool patterns & breastfeeding: http://www.llli.org/llleaderweb/lv/lvdec97jan98p123.html
  • Bowel difficulties, breastfeeding and supply: http://www.llli.org/nb/nbjulaug02p129.html
  • About babies, lactose allergy, foremilk: http://www.llli.org/faq/foremilk.html
  • About oversupply & milk production strategies: http://www.llli.org/faq/oversupply.html
  • One mom’s experiences with lip & tongue ties: http://itwentalittlesomethinglikethis.blogspot.com/2011/10/fit-to-be-tied.html

Poop, Gas and Fussing in the Breastfed Baby: It might not be colic.

For the last few weeks we have had some poop and gas problems with Adalyn that I promised I wouldn’t bore you with, until I realized this is a very real issue other breastfeeding mothers are also struggling with.

At just 3 weeks old Adalyn has had terrible gas that is quite stinky, she’s going poop only about once a week and she is extremely fussy, apparently uncomfortable and not sleeping well.

I entertained thoughts about Addie having a reaction to something in my diet but nothing seemed to be connected. We tried gas drops, gripe water, burping, tummy sleep, swing sleep, bicycle exercises, baby wearing, warm baths, constant holding and non-stop nursing to help and calm her.

When we called the doctor and midwife about the lack of poop we were told as long as she’s gaining weight and wetting diapers it’s not a concern (the lack of poop). They suggested we to try glycerin suppositories, Karo syrup in water or a lubed up rectal thermometer in the anus to stimulate poop (and I also found this advice in many places on the internet)… nothing seemed to work for us (well we didn’t try the suppositories) and I was still quite concerned about the lack of poop.

On occasion a mother will describe notably infrequent newborn stooling when asked. Sometimes it has been overlooked or, using the criteria for older babies, labeled normal. Sometimes, under the advice of family, friends or health workers, this has already been treated as constipation.

During the 1990s mothers have related such treatments as: changes made in the mother’s diet; various supplements for baby including glucose or corn syrup water, fruit juices, or pureed fruits; various types of anal stimulation, anal dilation and enemas of vegetable oil. In cases of infrequent newborn stooling, babies are often known to have or are later found to have poor weight gain. Source LLL Site

Adalyn first went a week between pooping, then 6 days between poops. Her gas pain and the malodorous odor seemed to worsen as the days went on without a poop but on the day she finally did poop each week the gas and fart smells were basically gone for about 24 hours. And she slept, like a peaceful, happy girl. And she also slept for good stretches of time and would go right back to sleep so easily.

These glimpses of her content and pain free time made it impossible to accept that this was just something we would have to wait for her to outgrow. There was no way this was incurable, something was causing it and that cause could somehow be remedied… if we could nail it down.

Breastfeeding is hard and can sometimes be puzzling. This fact alone is why so many are quick to supplement baby with formula.

We are blamed and told something in our diet is upsetting baby, but what? We are told a formula can help with tummy trouble and possible allergic reactions, and sometimes they do… The sticking point is that the number of babies that actually can’t tolerate mom’s milk is actually very, very small.

Additionally, breastfeeding supply issues (not enough milk, too much milk, etc) can almost always be remedied instead of just giving up and switching to formula.

In our haste and desperation we just search for any possible solution for our pained and unhappy babies…
Sadly this results in the end of nursing relationships.

My own breastfeeding struggles and frustrations give me a very real understanding of why some moms give up completely. The huge breastfeeding benefits to mom and baby make the struggles and frustrations something worth enduring, for me (and hopefully to you too).

The Solution? Who knows!

If you are a nursing mom that arrived here looking for the solution to this problem I feel your pain! Adalyn is now 5 months old and while nothing I explored has solved the issue (tongue tie, block feeding, reflux, enzymes, gas drops, karo syrup, water supplements and more doctors visits) I think I am on the right track.

Don’t let Dr. Google swamp your brain and overwhelm your instincts like I did. It is oh, so easy to search the web, or ask for advice on social media when your baby is hurting but in doing this you might be setting yourself up for further frustration.

Everyone can speculate and there are seriously an infinite number of reasons for any ailment… the kicker is that each child and situation is different. Take Addie’s pooping for example… She’s gong more often now. Not sure why or what the issue was. Maybe my supply increased to fit her needs and all I needed to do was stop fiddling with remedies and just cuddle up to nurse her on demand.

A plane trip to Arizona forced me to nurse her non-stop and amazingly her pooper started working more. Was it the Kombucha or the altitude change or the stress? Was it my diet or the dry air or the drama? No clue.

Will I stop trying to learn more about my own gut health and how that impacts my nursling? Nope. Will I refrain from googling when she has an issue? Probably not and neither will you.

My point is TRUST your instincts and the age old wisdom our bodies already have. We were made to carry, birth and nourish our growing babies. Sometimes all we need to do is slow down and get back to the basics to resolve the issues, rather than over thinking them.

 

 

Do kids become clumsy during growth?

If the last 48 hours are any indication I’d say the answer is yes. First, while enjoying some time in mommy’s bed Everly took a header off the bed. Scraped her spine on the bedside table and then lay in a crying crumpled mess on the floor next to the bed. The result: a six inch gash up her spine and mommy worrying about neck injuries or concussion.

The next day, while I was attempting to enjoy a relaxing time in the tub Everly busts in and joins me. Relaxing and reading morphed to toddler bath party.  Oh and Adalyn is screaming bloody murder with Nathan.

After we all get out of the tub Everly joins me and Adalyn on the bed, she now smashes her face on the headboard of the bed while jumping around.

Nathan attempts to herd Everly down the stairs so I can nurse Adalyn and get her to sleep. Everly is fighting going down stairs but gets herself down about a third of the way while horsing around (“Stair Sledding” basically). Nathan is yelling for her to settle and continue down the stairs when…

Thump, whump, whump whump…. “Oh, no, woh, woh, woh” Yells Nathan as he sprints down after Everly.

“Oh shit! My kid just fell down the stairs!”

Immediately I set Addie in the middle of the bed and go running after Nathan and Everly who are now crumpled at the bottom of the stairs. Everly is crying, Addie is crying and we are trying to assess the fall damage while comforting Everly.

Mommy is only in her undies…

It was quite a scene of madness but luckily, she’s got nothing but a few bruises to show for it. She did a good tuck-n-roll down the stairs it seems. And now she’s just bit her tongue bloody…

If we can keep this girl alive through this madness it will be a miracle.

What is it about the 2-3 year old clumsiness? Is it a growth spurt, a phase or what? Do tell.

Parenting #fail number 132: The radio alarm.

Everly,

Sorry we’ve been irritated about your consistant 2am crying that you blamed on your radio, Sweetpea. We thought you were waking and turning it on for attention. Little did we know, your radio alarm was set and it was startling you awake each night this week.

That sure explains why you came bolting up the stairs each night in terror. I certainly do not enjoy waking to a radio announcers voice, even when I am expecting it. So, I now understand your fear and frustration.

Silly us, we just thought you were up to some terrible, toddler antics. Apologies. The teething baby induced, sleep deprivation must be taking it’s toll or something.

Love,
Your very clueless Mom & Dad